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Screw You Sadness, Today I Choose Happiness! by UntamedUnwanted Screw You Sadness, Today I Choose Happiness! by UntamedUnwanted
I wish from the bottom of my heart this helps someone else as much as it helped me. At first it was hard to be happy but slowly, slowly it really began to work. I suppose what worked was taking control of my feelings and reminding myself I was in control, not my depression. This may not work for everyone. In fact, I can say for sure, different people need different things so this can't work for everyone. But hopefully it can work for some people who are falling. If it even helps one person, I will be both glad and grateful. :)

EDIT: This graphic has been edited because people feel that I am telling those who are chemically imbalanced to "get over it" by having the word depression there which I can assure them I am not because this graphic wasn't created with any other purpose than giving positivity. I am only trying to give a message of positive thinking to those who need it and are willing to use it. Sexual, physical, emotionally abused people who are trying hard to forget the damage like myself, someone having a bad day, someone who has recently been through a form of loss...basically anyone who is on the first very shaky steps of recovery and needs a positive message to keep them going.
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Kailani-e Featured By Owner Aug 29, 2013  Student Traditional Artist
This is beautiful. There's a boy in my grade, I wish I could show this too. But I know he will just look at it and say "Stereotypical" and walk away back where he can run himself over with his bike again.
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Bell224668 Featured By Owner Aug 13, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Thank u, this has really helped me cause my mum is suffering with depression and so I showed her this and she has already copied this and printed it off as a poster. I really hope u don't mind and again THANK YOU u have already help me and my mum so much Heart Heart Heart 
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rinthehuman Featured By Owner Aug 12, 2013  Student Traditional Artist
wow that is awesome!! it really hits home for me and definitely something that I will keep saying to myself!! Beautiful and definitely something great for all of us to remember. ^^ Thank you so much!!
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mangosquirrel Featured By Owner Aug 10, 2013  Student Traditional Artist
thank you




this would be a wonderful poster to have up. maybe i'll diy some wall art with this, if it's alright with you.
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zenkai97 Featured By Owner Aug 10, 2013
don't worry be happy www.youtube.com/watch?v=Oo4OnQ…
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If-Cloud-Was-A-Girl Featured By Owner Aug 10, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Huh... this really hits home, thank you <3
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SteffenC-itsjustme Featured By Owner Aug 10, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Anyone telling you it's wrong or naive to believe that you can choose happiness is wrong.
Just because it (partly) is a choice doesn't mean that it's therefore easy.
Choices aren't always easy to make and sometimes you have to make the choice over and over and over again before it starts to take effect, but it does work. And no, it doesn't cure depression, but it can help change the default setting a lot of people have on life and it can help change some negative thoughts into positive thoughts.
It's the same with heartbreak. I had to choose over and over and over again to try and look at all the wonderful things in my life and in life in generel in order to move past the overwhelming sadness that engulfed my life last year. I'm still making that choice today and I'll make the choice again tomorrow and yes, it has gotten easier, but it wouldn't have if I had not done it to start with and it wouldn't have if I didn't keep making that choice every day.

I love you for spreading this positive message with the world. You have a good heart. <3

PS: I have a sign on the wall of my bedroom that says "Happiness is not a destination. It is a WAY of life." ^^
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UntamedUnwanted Featured By Owner Aug 10, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
That is an absolutely gorgeous quote. Thank you so much for sharing. :)
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SteffenC-itsjustme Featured By Owner Aug 10, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
My pleasure ^^

Stay beautiful.
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Michael-J-Hawk Featured By Owner Aug 10, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
As someone who has never been depressed, the idea of someone being offended by a wonderful message like this is incomprehensible. But then again, there are many things about depression that I don't understand.

Life hasn't exactly been a walk in the park for me, but it wasn't that rough either. My father was an alcoholic and his drinking problem resulted in my parents being separated for a while. He eventually told himself enough was enough. My mom and I weren't there during the time he tried to quit drinking, but from what he tolf me, they tied him to a bed to prevent him from trying to get a drink in rehab and he spent the first week literally pissing and crapping himself. His body would never stop shaking because he wanted to drink more than anything in the world. But he told himself that he couldn't because his drinking was what had resulted in his wife and son leaving him. So he continued to endure it and now he is 100% sober.

I'm aware that for people who suffer from depression it can't be easy to be happy just like that and that it takes a long LONG time for them to get over it. But if my father could descend into hell and make it back as a sober and decent man, I think people can break free from their depression and be happy. It's not easy, but it CAN be done.
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2-d4y5-4g0 Featured By Owner Aug 11, 2013
Someone who is clinically depressed or has another chemical imbalance cannot just break free from it, since it's something they're born with. It either takes a lifelong commitment to medication, or a lifelong struggle against their own mind. Likewise, your father probably battles with his addiction everyday.
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Michael-J-Hawk Featured By Owner Aug 12, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Well, on many occasions I've heard him say that he continues to take the medicine that got him off the alcohol in small quantities just in case, and that he doesn't drink even a single drop of alcohol out of fear that he'll fall into the cycle again.

I never said that they can "just break free". I only said that it CAN be done, but that it's not easy.
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UntamedUnwanted Featured By Owner Aug 10, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
It definitely can be done. As you have related in your story about your father, the human spirit is strong, tough and dangerous enough on its own to take on all odds. But some people want to believe really desperately that there is no cure and take a positive message as offensive. So I give up. I'm not going to try and change their minds and tell them to be strong and tough and eventually this too shall pass. So I will change this message for people who want to hear something positive rather than people who don't. :)
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Phandagart Featured By Owner Aug 10, 2013
I think you should upload the "depression" version again also, despite the complaints. It is a much stronger message, a real challenge to fight a foe that is seemingly overbearing and all powerful but that can be beaten sometimes if one can find the strength, even if only for a very short while.

People who get offended by a totally harmless and positive thing choose to be offended, but not because you meant to or because the thing is inherently offensive. I usually choose to ignore those silly people because their misguided anger mustn't keep me from having a positive outlook. :)
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UntamedUnwanted Featured By Owner Aug 10, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
I know. But unfortunately there is so much hate anyone can tolerate. I think what annoyed me most is that most people who were hating on the graphic were trying to say that only clinically depressed people have the right to be truly depressed and the rest of us don't.
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Phandagart Featured By Owner Aug 10, 2013
There is a certain level of entitlement in people that suffer from a specific illness that think of themselves as a minority group and thus feel they have to protect their uniqueness even if it's nothing to be proud of and no one tried to impeach their dignity.
Don't let it get to you, after all it's you who's teaching us how to overcome sadness. :)
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Rojozorra Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2013  Hobbyist Artisan Crafter
You should post this on your facebook page so I can share it on mine. Pretty pleaseeeee.
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UntamedUnwanted Featured By Owner Aug 10, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
I shall do just that! :)
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Rojozorra Featured By Owner Aug 10, 2013  Hobbyist Artisan Crafter
Fantastic!!!
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endler Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
//sees that edit
Well, I absolutely loathe when people just tell me 'to get over it' (or, hell, when they tell ANYONE to get over it), but honestly that's not what I saw here at all. I just saw someone trying to give out a pleasant, positive quote.
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UntamedUnwanted Featured By Owner Aug 10, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Thank you so much for understanding this message's intent. :)
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Floral-Moon-Zenith Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2013
This is warm and fuzzy and all, but depression is not a choice.  It has numerous causes including a predisposition due to inherited genes, chemical imbalance in the brain, high quantities of stress, etc.  If I could 'Choose' my way outta that, I would've done it long ago.  And don't think I haven't tried.  

This feels like a demeaning of the illness that I, and many others, have.  Now there's going to be a bunch of idiot people running around who don't have depression, going to there depressed friends saying:  'Well, why don't you just CHOOSE to be happy?  I read it online.  Derrrr.'  Huh.  I never thought of that.  What a revelation!!

This seems like it was intended to be a nice thing, but what you didn't realize is what an unintentional slap in the face it was to people who struggle with how debilitating this can be.  For people who don't bother to read your artist's comments, it comes across that depression is 'that simple', that you can simply 'tell yourself' what to do.  It also feels like it completely undermines how hard some of us try to fight this illness, like maybe we're weak or not trying hard enough.  It's not that I don't believe in positive thinking, but wording is everything, and this is poorly worded.  It's set up to be misunderstood, no matter how good the intentions.  

You can't take a complicated issue such as a mental illness and use a simple, bite-sized, sunshine and rainbows quote, to sum it up.  That's why I think motivational quotes are rubbish.  People use them as an 'answer all', when really they're just sweet sentiments in unrealistic, idealized trappings.  It's great that this worked for you, but for most people with serious depression, this is laughable.  And what I'm most concerned about is the ass hats who'll read this and feed into the idea that depression is 'something you can choose'.  For an illness that's already misunderstood and not taken seriously enough, this definitely doesn't help, especially if they see it from someone who has, or once had, depression.
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UntamedUnwanted Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Also, you cannot tell me that only chemically imbalanced and depressed people are the only ones who get sad (hence the graphic has been changed to sadness from depression to avoid this confusion). EVERYONE gets sad, and most of us who get sad just need someone telling them, its all right. Cheer up. Things do get better. 
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UntamedUnwanted Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Its not about depression, its about sadness. Read it before you comment. I think I wrote right there that I changed the graphic to sadness because of people like yourself getting offended. Now, sadness doesn't just apply to chemically imbalanced people, it applies to those who has been abused, hurt, injured, bullied. From the artist's comments: This graphic has been edited because people feel that I am telling those who are chemically imbalanced to "get over it" by having the word depression there which I can assure them I am not because this graphic wasn't created with any other purpose than giving positivity. I am only trying to give a message of positive thinking to those who need it and are willing to use it. Sexual, physical, emotionally abused people who are trying hard to forget the damage like myself, someone having a bad day, someone who has recently been through a form of loss...basically anyone who is on the first very shaky steps of recovery and needs a positive message to keep them going.
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Floral-Moon-Zenith Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2013
When did you edit this?  When my tab was open, it still said depression, so my misunderstanding.  Thank you for changing it.
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S-E-Mercury Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Thank you for this.
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UntamedUnwanted Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
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undauntedifly Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2013  Student Writer
It is so difficult to do that some days. :( I wish it was always easy.
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UntamedUnwanted Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
I wish it was easy as well. But I have learnt everything in life is the hard way. :(
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undauntedifly Featured By Owner Aug 11, 2013  Student Writer
That is true. :hug:
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confidenceAlive Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
I know what you mean... but if it were easy it wouldn't be worth it [=
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undauntedifly Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2013  Student Writer
That is true! Sometimes just wish it was a bit easier! :)
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confidenceAlive Featured By Owner Aug 12, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Me too. And it does sometimes, even when you face the biggest mountains there are still meadows and vales to rest in along the way (:
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undauntedifly Featured By Owner Aug 12, 2013  Student Writer
And how wonderful those meadows and vales feel when  you get to them! Thank you. You have said a few things I was needing to hear. :hug:
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confidenceAlive Featured By Owner Aug 12, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
You're most certainly welcome, I'm delighted to be helpful! C:
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Olivia-Janzen Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Oh Lordy thank you! This has helped me so much actually. I work in a job where I deal with customers daily, and I know how important it is to give off the impression that I'm  happy while dealing with people, even if I'm having the worst day ever. "Fake it until you make it" is another little quote that helps me get through the day. :)
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UntamedUnwanted Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
:glomp: I am so glad this helped! :)
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naboolars Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I'll let Hyperbole and a Half respond to this: Part 1 and Part 2
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UntamedUnwanted Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
I still believe, even though I love the comic blog and have followed it for a while, that there is no harm in at least making an effort to think positive. My depression was caused by years of physical and sexual abuse, trauma, losing so many people who are close to me. I found myself right there. Nothing meant anything anymore. No one meant anything anymore. Everything was dark. But one fine day, I met someone who had lost everything they held dear. Their family, their home, their job, EVERYTHING. And he was still smiling. It made me realise that maybe I can beat this thing. And it didn't happen immidiately...it took years. But I did beat it in the end, by forcing myself to at least try to feel something.
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DiDi-dias Featured By Owner Aug 10, 2013  Hobbyist Artist
You are amazing to have finally been able to move forward through it all. This poster is truly inspiring and thought-provoking, I'll think of this whenever I'm down. Or to help someone else too.^^
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yackovskymusic Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2013  Hobbyist Interface Designer
if it only was that easy... 
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UntamedUnwanted Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
It isn't easy. Nothing in this world is easy. But sometimes, just sometimes you may be able to persevere through the power of positive thinking, a lot of love and a lot of care.
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tentabulge Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2013
easier said than done

messages like these are a little offensive towards people who can't do it no matter how hard they try

it downplays the fact that depression is too serious in most cases to just think it away
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UntamedUnwanted Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Read the author's message. I think it states clearly there that it won't work for everyone and if it works for one person I would be glad for it. I have a bipolar mother and have suffered from intense depression myself. This worked for me, and as someone who has been through it, surely I wouldn't set out to offend anyone deliberately. This was a personal survival tactic.
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tentabulge Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2013
that doesn't really excuse that it'll give a lot of people the wrong idea and that it's borderline hurtful to people who can't just think things away

I'm more concerned about people who will see this and think depression is that easy to cure/help

"I choose happiness"

it's cute

but naive
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UntamedUnwanted Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Uh, I don't think anything about it suggests that depression is easy. As someone who has gone through it, I would never say it is easy. But trying to give other people a few survival tactics that worked for me may help. Its better than dwelling and saying something like, "don't ever think positive, your depression is never going to go anywhere." <- I would say that is a hell of a lot more hurtful than saying, "Think positive". That's like saying my friends who are cancer survivors and say to other cancer survivors "You CAN beat cancer, I believe in you, you can do it." are naive and hurtful as well (And cancer is a hell of a lot worse than depression, I can guarantee you that.). There is a lot of power in positive thinking, whether you would like to admit it or not. Depression is a disease and if you keep thinking negatively, the more it will consume you, the more it will win.
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Silenced-Dreams Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
As somebody who needs medication in order to keep their depression under control, I only wish this worked :/

Maybe it could for people who don't have something going wrong in their brain, but for those people this sort of saying is what we get almost every day.

"Try and be happy", "smile more", "stop being so down" may seem like easy things to do but when you are literally incapable of doing so, hearing them again and again makes you feel as though your problems aren't real.  As if you're making them up in some way, which is very much NOT the case.

It's a nice little graphic, but it should be taken with a hefty spoon of salt. Not everyone can simply think themselves happy.
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UntamedUnwanted Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
I did. I worked hard at it as well. And as someone who has suffered from intense depression this worked for me. Maybe I am just a very positive thinker (after everything it was hard for me to be this positive given that I had severe PTSD) but this was the very first step for me.
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TheSolitas Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2013
Very true statement, there'll never be a fix for depression but the sooner people realise this message the better. As someone who's lived with depression for over a decade I can honestly say this is the first step to coping, dragging yourself to your feet and living.

Good on you for sharing =)
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